What does a cuddle session look like?
Each session is unique and client-directed. We'll start by discussing your boundaries, preferences, and what you're hoping to get from the session. Then we'll engage in consensual, platonic touch such as hugging, hand-holding, gentle back rubs, or simply sitting close together. You're always in control of what happens, and you can change your mind at any time.
I've never done something like this before: what is the right way to Cuddle?
That can look entirely different for each session. People are unique and have their own preferences. Some like to talk, some don't. Some like a lot of physical contact, some like a little. Sometimes we feel lively and playful, sometimes we feel quiet and introspective. There are a gazillion right ways to cuddle! As long as you are following the code of conduct and respecting my boundaries, you are doing it right. Half of the fun is in discovering what is right for YOU. I hope you will leave feeling more relaxed, better about yourself and more confident about communicating your own needs while respecting the needs of others. Have fun!
Is anyone welcome to become a client?
Anyone is welcome to become a client who is the legal age of consent and is willing and able to abide by the code of conduct.
What is your cancellation policy?
I have my own way of handling cancellations. I'll discuss the details with you so that it is clear up front. The important thing is that no one is ever obligated to cuddle anyone in any way they don't want to, and that there is a professional respect for time and money.
What is your privacy policy?
Your privacy is very important to me. I ensure client confidentiality and it is a part of my code of conduct.
Is there a client agreement?
All clients must agree to our terms of agreement and code of conduct. I will let you know if I have other agreements in addition to these.
How is payment handled?
Payment is handled directly with me through clear arrangements made prior to your session.
Where can I arrange to Cuddle?
I offer both in-call (you come to my location) and out-call (I come to your location) options. If I can only do outcall, and you are unable to have me at your residence, consider a hotel/motel room, or cuddle at a public place such as a movie theater, park or restaurant booth. I'd like to see more public displays of cuddling in our world :).
What clothing should I wear for my session?
Please wear something that you are comfortable in. Pajama pants and sweats are popular cuddle wear. A minimum of shorts and a tank top are required for both of us.
What's okay/not okay to talk about during a cuddle session?
Compassionate listening can be a wonderful part of a cuddle session. Cuddling can also be a wonderful place to not have to talk and to enjoy comfortable silence with another. How much you talk and what you talk about is entirely up to the two of us. I am not a counselor or coach, and even if I am in other parts of my life, that is not part of a cuddle session. I will be happy to listen and be honest with you about how much is too much for me in terms of what you share. Everything is confidential unless you share any information of an illegal nature or the intention to do harm.
Do we have to only cuddle?
Cuddling takes many forms. Be creative! As long as you are abiding by the code of conduct it is welcomed. Sometimes it looks like massages, playing games, dancing, singing, having a meal, reading aloud to one another, eye gazing, etc.
What training do your Cuddlists receive?
I completed a trauma-informed cuddle therapy course, where I learned The Cuddlist Method, consent and boundaries skills, cultural competency, and relational embodiment techniques. Expert trainers evaluated me for comprehension of the material. I was encouraged to improve my self-awareness and communication skills in ongoing mentorship sessions. I cannot make any promises or guarantees about the quality of your cuddle experience. You are welcome to assess whether I'm a good fit for your individual needs.
What is your policy regarding hygiene?
Be respectful and considerate. Please let me know if you have any concerns about hygiene.
What if I become uncomfortable or want to stop?
If you become uncomfortable in any way at any time, please say so. Stop whatever is causing discomfort and adjust accordingly. Please do not wait until your discomfort is large; do this at the first hint of it. Professional cuddling is consent based and I WANT you to speak up. This is the perfect place to practice using your voice. This is your session and none of it needs to feel anything SHORT OF good. If you would like to end your session early for any reason, simply let me know.
Do I have to tip?
Tipping is entirely up to you. It is always appreciated and never expected.
What happens if I become sexually aroused during a session?
Arousal is a healthy human response to all kinds of things including touch. It is not a problem in a non-sexual session. The important thing is that neither of us respond to it in a manner intended to increase arousal. It can be acknowledged or not and simply allowed to come and go without taking focus.